With Mack's Coaching, I Became a Participant!

Several years ago I had the great fortune of getting to spend several hours being coached by Richard Machowicz. With his permission, I’d like to relay some of the fantastic teachings he shared with me. His instruction helped me to author two books, create a successful cover band that now plays across the country, and launch a speaking and consulting business – all while continuing to work in the aerospace business. These things would not have happened were it not for Mack’s incredible instruction, inspiration and of course, my wife’s valuable support. As such, I’d like to outline some of the fantastic insights that Mack shared with me each month within this forum.

One of Mack’s most outstanding talents is his ability to break complex things down into their simplest and most understandable form. To do this, he often uses the power of distinctions. Distinctions give us a higher quality of language from which we can make choices. Whenever we judge something as right or wrong, good or bad, or place a value on it, we’re creating a distinction. Distinctions help us get beyond the justifications and excuses we use when we’re explaining why we didn’t get something done. They help us to see what really matters versus what really doesn’t. Distinctions help us to keep things simple.

One of the first and most powerful distinctions Mack ever shared was that of “spectator versus participant.” Stated simply, there are two ways you can approach life. You may choose to be a spectator who sits on the sidelines watching others and living vicariously through their accomplishments – or you can choose to be a participant. A participant recognizes the opportunities that life provides. A participant aggressively goes after important targets and feels the exhilaration of a fully engaged life.

Why doesn’t everyone choose to participate? There are many reasons that might keep people from entering the game. But keeping it simple, they usually boil down to 1) a lack of understanding of what needs to be done, or 2) fear. If you commit to a thorough study of Mack’s book Unleash the Warrior Within, and dig deeply into the principles of an NDCQ mindset, you can unleash your own personal potential to do great things. You can choose to get into the game.

For myself, I got fed up. I got tired of simply sitting on the sidelines watching other people. I got tired of underachieving. With Mack’s help, I grasped the idea of becoming a participant. From there, I recognized my own ability to make choices that enabled me to get some fairly extraordinary things accomplished.

That’s not to say that I don’t still struggle, make mistakes and occasionally lose sight of my most important targets. I certainly do. But when I come back to the NDCQ mindset and utilize the principles of Bukido outlined in Mack’s book, I can more quickly get myself back on track. Instead of asking the question, “What’s going to happen to me?” – Mack suggests asking, “What do I need to get done?” Answering that second question always propels me into the role of participant.

I hope you choose the aggressive stance of becoming a participant. It’s the only way that you can contribute to making the world a better place. If you choose to get into the game, life’s most wonderful rewards await.

With love and respect,

Lee Witt